Therapist Strategies to Heal After a Break-Up
Going through a break-up is one of the most universal yet painful experiences. It can feel like your world is ending, leaving you with a sense of hopelessness and feelings of confusion. No matter how long the relationship was or who initiated the breakup, navigating this big change can feel overwhelming. While breakups are tough, they also present an opportunity for self-healing and growth. If you are struggling to move forward, here are some tips to guide you through the healing process:
Therapist Approved Strategies for Healing:
Don’t be scared of your feelings.
It’s okay (and completely valid) to be sad. Break-ups can cause severe feelings of grief, as you are essentially mourning a person and a future you had envisioned for yourself. You’re going through a painful time, and you don’t need to be strong. Be patient with yourself, and don’t fear the big feelings. If you want to cry or want to listen to sad music, do it. Embrace the heavy feelings, knowing that you’re entitled to it.
Get to know you again.
Being in a relationship can sometimes feel like you’re navigating life for two people. You may have had to compromise and may have lost touch with certain aspects of yourself. Is there something you used to enjoy doing before the relationship? Is there anything you’ve wanted to try but haven’t had the headspace for? This can be your time to empower yourself. The only relationship you are guaranteed forever is the one with yourself, so spend time embracing your individuality and living fully for you.
Don’t romanticize the past.
After the breakup, it can be easy to romanticize the past and second-guess the decisions. You may think that things weren’t as bad as you thought or that if you had acted differently, it may have worked out. You’re not together for a reason, and replaying the ‘what-if’ scenarios in your mind can be harmful. Instead, when you are ready, reflect on lessons from your previous relationships and qualities you’d want to prioritize in future relationships. This shift can increase feelings of clarity and confidence.
Create your communication boundaries.
Deciding if still want to have communication with your ex is a very personal decision. There are no right or wrong behaviors. However, it is essential to reflect on your intention behind the decision. For some, constant communication can act as an emotional crutch, preventing you from moving on. Ask yourself if staying in touch is hindering or helping your healing process and whether it aligns with your long-term goals and values.
Lean on your support system.
Lean on your loved ones. Chances are, people in your circle have had similar experiences. Whether you need a distraction or just want to vent, spending time with others can help you remember that you are not alone. It can help you develop a sense of normalcy as you figure out what life may look like moving forward.
Breakups are hard! However, you can begin to heal by embracing your feelings, developing a stronger sense of self, and leaning on your support system. Therapy can also be a vital tool in helping you cope with this challenging time.
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